Those of us who are familiar with the rotten dismantling of alcoholic thinking know quite well the frightening places this disease can take us. Addiction is a demon that may sleep for a little bit, but never completely departs from our sides. As we scuffle thru life smelling the roses here and there, addiction is the thick thorn that draws blood unexpectedly. It helps convince us to consistently justify our thought processes, explaining to ourselves why our abusive usage is normal as the cards stack against us. Justification only goes so far when everybody else has their life together and you don’t though.
Eventually the time to depart our chemical abuse comes, but even still we choose to look the other way. There is this unanswered fear of getting sober that most of us try to ignore until everything comes crashing down. Yet think about it: How many of our fears are based on rational actuality, as opposed to the irrational rumors and hearsay that we allow to storm the gates of our mind? Our imagination often ends up becoming our enemy when struck by the blunt object of fear through self-infliction. To overcome any fear, means to take a leap in trusting yourself. The same as pain. It’s the medicine we take to heal our sick selves sometimes.
Nonetheless, one day we wake up and can’t help but wonder what on earth went wrong. Our alcoholic tendencies have battened the hatches and prepared for war. The battle upstairs gets ever more intensive, and we sink lower and lower into this revolving door of powerlessness and unmanageability. There’s a fear of getting sober and a fear of getting high. What is one to do?
As our age grows and our abuse grows with it, our fears tend to change throughout the years. Some wisdom sets in but much is held back through intoxication. While some things will become important, others will remain ignored. Many addicts will choose to be Chicken Little worrying about the sky falling while they ignore their persistent withdrawals every morning. Their fears and that particular fear of getting sober is what has built their alcoholic ways to such towering proportions.
The fear of getting sober or being able to deal with life on life’s terms is what turns us toward the hot spoon or the neck of the bottle that quickly becomes our friendly solution to everything. This chosen solution will only burn our blueprints for life, never correcting them. Many come to the conclusion these methods aren’t working much too late. By then, physical and mental dependency has usually taken a firm grasp on the individual. The addict may recognize, obviously it’s time to kick the chemicals and start fresh, but how do we embrace the fear of getting sober?
One of the largest reasons we struggle to move forward with sobriety is the fear of leaving it behind as a crutch to lean on in hard times. When our friends abandoned us and nobody wanted to be in our presence, the bottle was always there. The crack pipe was the only one that wanted to listen when we were living in a world of obnoxious delusion. We fear losing a relationship with our substances. They become the reason to live; the very lifeline to our veins. This torments us, but the questioning fears of getting sober and leaving it all behind echo even louder:
- How Will We Handle Stress?
- How Will We Have Fun?
- What If Nobody Like Us Now?
- How Will We Relax Now?
- What If Sobriety Is Even More Miserable?
We forget in the midst of our addictive single minded routines that chemical dependency will gladly take us to our last breath. Some of us don’t even forget but we just stop caring entirely. Life or death, punishment or reward, we’ll take whatever is tossed our way. Same goes for family matters. In the depths of addiction, we alcoholic thinkers tend to be pretty selfish as we put ourselves first in most matters.
Once everything is brought to the table, we build our fear of getting sober into even more because the family “needs us” now all of the sudden. Excuses. Well, we haven’t really been there mentally as much as we think we have. 9 times out of 10, the family wants their respective member back and unleashed from the deranged mentality they’ve been hypnotized in. Most family members will advocate for the healthy option and suggest confronting our fear getting sober so that we can be there for the family down the road before unpredictable circumstances occur.
Along with the previously mentioned examples comes all forms of embarrassment and the opinions of others. We get so caught up on what all “the others” will think, but in hindsight, most of the people we surround ourselves with already know of the insanity being displayed. When were out ripping and running, we think we look so good and that were hiding our behaviors so well. Delusional! We’re usually so oblivious to our surroundings and there’s really no more hiding them anymore. The more embarrassing thing is trying to maintain a problem that is being denied as a problem. The Greek scale is tipping over on this one.
Then there is the “unknown”. We have the fear of getting sober because of change and the unpredictability that is life. Getting clean from the booze and dope will require new hobbies, new friends, and a new lifestyle entirely. This gigantic change can rattle even the most grounded of people, but one that is worth it thru and thru. The best part is that we are quick learning mammals that adapt to our situations with the speed of light. Don’t let fear getting sober be your ultimate obituary. Home was within us all along. If you or a loved one are suffering from Drug and/or Alcohol abuse, give one of our addiction specialists a call today 877-978-1208.