We all have an inner dialogue. We all have inner thoughts that guide us with emotions, actions, and reactions. We all have our own moral compass, biases, and perspectives. Our thoughts guide us through our days and nights.
Our thoughts provoke our reactions. They can sometimes lead us in the right direction or they can sometimes lead us in a dark direction. The key is to be aware of how your inner dialogue guides you both consciously and subconsciously.
What is Being Aware?
No matter what point you are in your life it is truly important to be aware of what conscious and subconscious thoughts are playing in your life and mental health. We all have our own inner critic. This inner voice, combining conscious thoughts with unconscious beliefs and biases, is an effective way for the brain to process daily experiences. Known as self-talk, this inner dialogue can supportive or self-defeating.
At times, it can be extremely difficult to not let that inner critic bring us to a dark and empty place, even for a moment. Our inner critic may take a bad day and highlight all the negativity and make us feel like we are worthless or not good enough. We have the power to change the way we think. It is a challenge, but it is not impossible. We all have something to offer.
Not everyone is an automatic optimist and that is ok. This is where effort comes into play. See a therapist. Talk therapy can really help you adjust your thought patterns. Changing your thought patterns is key. Rather than going right to a negative thought or reaction try to see the positive in that situation. It may take effort, but feeling better about yourself is worth it.
What Should I Look For?
Sometimes, it can be a mental illness that is making you think and feel negatively. Mental illness refers to a wide range of mental health conditions. These are disorders that affect your thinking, mood, or behavior. At some point many people have mental health concerns however, when you begin to notice certain changes, signs, or symptoms it may be time to reach out for help and ask questions.
Mental illnesses include depression, anxiety, eating disorders, and addictive behaviors. These disorders can make days harder and harder to get through. Signs and symptoms may vary, depending on the disorder and other possible circumstances.
Signs and symptoms to keep a look out for may include:
- Low energy or trouble sleeping
- Excessive fears or worries, or extreme feelings of guilt
- Extreme mood changes, both high and low
- Reduced ability to concentrate
- Withdraw from friends and family activities
- Long-lasting sadness or irritability
These are only a few signs, but they are important signs that you or someone you know may be struggling.
Having positive influences and supportive people around you is a great way for you to stay positive yourself. A support system is one of the most effective ways to deal with that inner critic and remind ourselves that we are worthy. A support system can be a therapist, a support group, or family and friends.
What You Can Do?
Being aware of how you think is important. In most cases, your first thought is not always the best one. Giving your brain time to process the thought or situation will have a huge impact on your next thought, idea, or reaction. As humans, we are impulsive. We make mistakes, but taking time to get past that first thought or reaction can make all the difference. With help we can all change how we think. If you are suffering from a mental illness, an addiction, or both getting help is paramount. You are not alone and do not let that inner critic tell you otherwise.